Lolu suku lukaBaba, khuthaza ubaba wakho ukuthi aye kudokotela

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Ngabe ubaba wakho ucabanga ukuthi uphile saka njengenkabi, kodwa futhi unenkani njengomnyuzi uma kukhulunywa ngokuvakashela udokotela? Akayedwa. Ngokusho kuka-2016 funda nguMtholampilo waseCleveland, cishe angama-42% kuphela amadoda azimisele ukuya kudokotela lapho esaba ukuthi anesimo esibi sezempilo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ama-53% wamadoda asho ukuthi awakhulumi neze ngempilo yawo.

Ngokuqhamuka koSuku Lobaba, yisikhathi esikahle sokukhuthaza ubaba wakho ukuthi aye kudokotela futhi aqaphele impilo yakhe. UKate granigan , ilungu le- Inhlangano Yokunakekela Impilo Ekhulile ’Ibhodi labaqondisi kanye ne-CEO yeLifeCare Advocates, babelane ngamathiphu okugqugquzela ngobumnene lapho umzali enqaba ukuya kudokotela.

1. Qonda ukungabaza kwakhe

Mhlawumbe ubaba wakho wakhuliswa enama-stoic futhi engakhombisi zimpawu zobuhlungu — ukubhekana nomzimba wakhe osugugile kungamkhathaza. Noma mhlawumbe kumayelana nokulawula. Njengoba sikhula, silahlekelwa ukulawula izinto eziningi, kubandakanya nempilo yethu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubaba wakho ufuna ukubukeka eqinile noma ezizwa sengathi unendlela ethile yokulawula esele empilweni yakhe, isinyathelo sokuqala siqinisekisa ukuthi uyakuqonda ukungabaza kwakhe ngokuya kudokotela. Ngaleyo ndlela unganciphisa kalula okunye ukwesaba kwakhe.

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2. Kwenze kube okulandelanayo

Beka ukunakekelwa kwezempilo kukababa wakho kumigomo yakhe. Uma uke wambuka exhuga izinyanga eziyisithupha futhi wazi ukuthi uthanda ukuyodlala igalofu, mbuze ukuthi ucabangani ngokuthi udokotela angamsiza kanjani ukumbuyisela kuma-link. Kufanele umkhuthaze, uGranigan uyeluleka. Kufanele kube nenjongo. Ungafiki kuyo ngombono wokuthi 'kufanele', kepha kunalokho umbono wokuthi 'ngabe ucabangele'.

Futhi uma engeke azicabangele yena, ungakwenza ngomndeni. Ithi, Uma kungenzeli wena, yenzele lokho thina .

3. Yiba nobuciko

Mhlawumbe inkinga kababa wakho akuyona ihhovisi elizivakashela lona, ​​kodwa kunalokho inkinga edingekayo ukufika lapho. Ithi inamadolo amabi futhi iya ehhovisi ohlangothini olude lwesibhedlela kungaba buhlungu noma kungakhululeki. Uma kunjalo, phakamisa indlela yokudala: Letha ukunakekelwa ekhaya lakhe. Izinketho zasekhaya ziyatholakala ezindaweni eziningi — noma kwabasebenza ngobuchwepheshe lapho, itelehealth izomvumela ukuthi abonane nodokotela ngqo kusuka ocingweni lakhe.

4. Letha umngani

Kungumqondo omuhle ukuphakamisa kubaba wakho ukuthi - uma ethatha isinqumo sokuya - kufanele eze nezinto ezimbili nodokotela: uhlu lwemibuzo mayelana nanoma yiziphi izinkinga zempilo (nolwazi lokuthi unelungelo lokuthola lezo zimpendulo) nomuntu othembekile ongasiza ukubhala amanothi. Ukuba nomuntu othile abe khona njengothatha amanothi futhi alalele kuyindlela yokwehlisa ingcindezi ngoba ngeke kudingeke bakhumbule yonke into ngasikhathi sinye, kusho uGranigan. Ungazinikela futhi ekuhambeni naye.

5. Hlonipha isinqumo sakhe

Khumbula, awusoze aphoqa ubaba wakho ukuthi aye kudokotela. Uma nje esenekhono lokuqonda namandla okwenza izinqumo zakhe, kusazodingeka ukuthi uhloniphe lokho anqumayo, noma ngabe akuyona inketho ongayenza. Akusilo ilungelo lethu njengengane endala ukuphikelela kunoma ngubani ukuthi enze noma yini, kusho uGranigan. Ukuthi ufinyelela eminyakeni ethile akusho ukuthi ubuyela emuva emuva ekubeni utshelwe okufanele ukwenze.

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